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1 thing your Graduate might not Be Considering…

My Facebook and Instagram feed is filled with excited posts about friends’ children’s graduations and their decisions about which colleges they will be attending. 

This is certainly an exciting time of the year. So much effort has gone into preparing for this moment!

At the risk of spoiling this celebratory time, however, I am going to throw something out there that you probably are not considering and should before they leave your nest:

What happens if your now-adult child experiences a medical emergency?

Why should you think about your child experiencing a medical emergency before she or he heads to college? Imagine receiving a call from your child’s college roommate that your child was in an accident and rushed to the hospital.  Then imagine you call the hospital and they tell you that they have no legal authority to share any information with you about your child’s condition. And you have no ability to weigh in on the medical decisions.

“The risk is real. Accidents are the leading cause of death for young adults. A quarter-million Americans between 18 and 25 are hospitalized with nonlethal injuries each year.”


Deborah L. Jacobs – Forbes

Many do not know that, in Wisconsin, once your child turns 18 you can no longer be involved in his or her medical decisions without your child’s express permission.  What happens if your child is unconscious or otherwise unable to grant this permission following an accident or illness?  Without planning ahead, you have to have a hearing in court to obtain a guardianship. 

No person should be spending time in law offices and courtrooms while their child suffers in a hospital.  You belong at your child’s side. 

The resolution is easier than you think

With a Health Care Power of Attorney document, your adult child can designate you (or another adult) as his or her Health Care Agent to receive information and assist with decisions if he or she is not able to do so.

While you are considering this power of attorney, also consider discussing who your child wants to help with your child’s finances. A Power of Attorney for Finances and Property allows your child to name someone to access financial records and make decisions about your child’s financial affairs if they are unable to do so.

During these festive months before you send your child off to college, I encourage you to have a conversation with them about who they want to help them in a medical emergency. It only takes a moment. And then schedule an appointment to meet with an attorney to ensure your child is covered before he or she leaves for college.


Resources:

Forbes Blog Post. Two Documents every 18 year old should sign. https://www.forbes.com/sites/deborahljacobs/2014/08/15/two-documents-every-18-year-old-should-sign/#55b6ff0b6e33

National Healthcare Decisions Day

April 16th is National Healthcare Decisions Day. NHDD is an effort to encourage people to sign a Health Care Power of Attorney and engage in conversations about end-of-life care.

Advance care planning involves making future healthcare decisions that include much more than deciding what care you would or would not want.

National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization, www.nhpco.org

What is a Health Care Power of Attorney?

A Health Care Power of Attorney is a document that allows you to direct the care you want to receive at or near the end stages of a terminal illness. You also appoint an agent to make decisions about your health care if you become incapacitated. The Health Care Power of Attorney provides written instructions to your agent addressing potential medical situations. 

Your Health Care Power of Attorney is one of the most important parts of your estate plan. In Wisconsin, if you do not have this document, nobody has legal authority to make decisions on your behalf (unless you obtain a court-ordered guardianship).  Not even your spouse.  And if you have children over 18, you have no authority to help your child if they are incapacitated without an advanced directive.

Too many people die in a manner they would not choose, and too many of their loved ones are left feeling bereaved, guilty, and uncertain.

National Healthcare Decisions Day – theconversationproject.org

Why is it so important to appoint an agent?  Medical advances make it possible to prolong your life despite a serious illness, or injury. Simply remaining alive may not be your only goal.  Many of us desire to have a quality life. Few want to simply exist hooked up to a bunch of machines. Your right to have medical treatment withdrawn or withheld is constitutionally protected. The right remains valid even if you become incapacitated

You also have the right to receive medical treatment even in cases that your doctors have deemed further treatment to be beyond hospital ethics standards or applicable laws. But you need an agent to advocate for you.

Leaving your care to local laws and Hospital Ethics guidelines?

As you can imagine, end of life medical care can – and often does – raise ethical and legal issues about your rights, the family’s rights, the medical profession’s role, and the state’s role. Part of this process is having a conversation about your end of life desires.

92% of people say that talking with their loved ones about end of life care is important, but only 32% of people actually have had the conversation.

National Healthcare Decisions Day organizers – nhdd.org

It is critically important that you talk with your loved ones. Especially a person you choose as your agent. Discuss your desires should you lack the capability to make decisions for yourself.  This is a personal decision. Your loved ones will want guidance to carry out your wishes to the best of their abilities. A surprising number of families, disagree over what an ill relative would prefer.  A Health Care Power of Attorney will help to make your wishes clear.  It will give your agent peace of mind.

National Healthcare Decisions Day Resources:

End-of-Life Planning: Free Guide Starts the Conversation

Wisconsin is participating in the annual initiative, and with Gov. Tony Evers’ proclamation, the State Bar of Wisconsin offers members and the public free access to its new end-of-life planning tool.


Bring a shovel: One community’s NHDD story and lessons learned for the future

Wisconsin Community NHDD Blog Post by:
Ellen Koski, MPH, CPH. Director, Fox Valley Advance Care Planning


The Conversation Project

National Healthcare Decisions Day Partner organization


With Dementia, More is Needed than a Boilerplate Advance Directive

Katy Butler, a New York Times author & end-of-life speaker. Post is adapted from her book, “The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life”.  More info on Katy here. 


NHPCO Blog: National Healthcare Decisions Day

Inspire, educate and empower the public about the importance of advance care planning.


Estate Planning: a Gift for your loved ones

National Healthcare Decisions Day related content Blog Post by: Rebecca Mason

Wisconsin blended families & Estate Planning

In Wisconsin when you are blending families, estate planning should be a higher priority on your to-do list.  The stakes can be quite high if you fail to plan. However with the proper estate plan, you have the ability to protect your children and your current spouse in the event of your death. 

Things are just a bit more complicated the second time around.

If you are in your second marriage, you have different things to consider in your estate plan.  You are likely a bit older. So, you probably have more assets. One or both of you may have children from a prior marriage.  Perhaps you and your current spouse entered the relationship with relatively equal assets. Perhaps one of you brought much more to the marriage. Each blended family is different.

What happens if you don’t plan in Wisconsin?

When a spouse from a blended family dies without an estate plan, it can be shocking to the family to learn how Wisconsin law distributes the assets.  What if an individual has children from a previous relationship, marries a new spouse, and dies without an estate plan?  In Wisconsin, generally speaking, half of the couple’s assets belong to the spouse.  The other half belong to his or her children from the prior relationship.  

It may be that you think it is fair for your assets to be split between your spouse and your children.  But what if your main asset is the home you live in with your spouse? What if your spouse loses the house because he or she can’t afford to buy out the one-half interest from your children?  Or maybe your spouse was independently wealthy and you believe your children should inherit what you brought into the marriage. 

Complications?

Beneficiary designations and joint ownership can complicate the situation – sometimes with devastating results.  If you name your spouse as your beneficiary on your bank account, he or she will inherit everything in that account.  When your spouse dies, his or her children stand to inherit everything, cutting out your children entirely.  

If you are in a blended family, consider what you have in assets, how much you and your spouse brought into the marriage, how the assets are held (for example, homestead vs. liquid assets). And the current financial security of your spouse and your children.  Then talk with your spouse.  The best approach is to be direct and honest – with yourself, your spouse, and your children.  And then consult with an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure that your decisions are properly reflected in your plan.

If you are intentional about it, you can plan in a way that makes sense for you and your Wisconsin, Blended family

Racine Elder Law Attorney Rebecca Mason

“The best approach is to be direct and honest – with yourself, your spouse, and your children. “

Racine Elder Law Attorney, Rebecca Mason

Blended Family Resources:

Good Therapy – Blended Family Issues

Blended Families and how they work, Wisconsin Public Radio

Parenthood in America Excerpt for Blended Families

Estate Planning: a Gift for your loved ones

Preparing your estate plan is a wonderful gift that you give to your family and friends. It not only saves money for your surviving loved ones, but it can also avoid unnecessary complications.

“Estate planning isn’t something you do for you. You do it for the ones you love.”

Elder Law Attorney – Rebecca Mason

Estate Planning is all about the details

So much of estate planning focuses on the more obvious assets. For example, your home, bank accounts, and investments. But don’t make the mistake of forgetting about your personal property.

It’s unlikely your loved ones are going to want all (any?) of your stuff. Generationally we are all very different. For example, many Millennials seem to be more agile preferring to live minimally, and able to move across the country for an opportunity. Boomers and Gen X are equally as disparate. Think about what your family would really want to safeguard and what they may need to sell in an estate sale for example.

“Estate planning is often about making it simple for your loved ones to manage your affairs.”

Elder Law Attorney – Rebecca Mason

Does your health care POA provide guidance for care?

Your health care power of attorney is one of the most important parts of your estate plan. When we prepare this for our clients, we include a four-page memo that walks through various questions about your desires for your health care.

Importantly, we also include discussion topics (if you could plan it today, what would the last day or week of your life be like?). So we consider all of these scenarios with specific questions about which types of treatments you would or would not want. Imagine a serious diagnosis of X disease. Would you want a treatment that would result in severe pain and nausea for 2-3 months? Would you be willing to endure the side effects if the chance of regaining your health was 1%? More than 20%? More than 50%?

We encourage our clients to go through the memo with their named agent to give their agent peace of mind when the time comes to decide about their health care. It’s a tough conversation, but meaningful. As a result you find out a lot about yourself and your loved ones.

The Motley Fool Agrees

“Health care and financial power of attorney documents are the most important parts of nearly every estate plan. How you want to live, and how you want to die, are very personal decisions.”

Michael Aloi (TheRetireGuy) Motley Fool

Do you already have an idea of what you want in your Estate Plan?

Our flat fee pricing structure helps make this option more viable.
So if you are on top of things and already have your plan in place, a well-crafted estate plan is a fantastic gift to give.

Planning for your estate and end of life care can fall to the back burner while juggling daily pressures and priorities. However, planning ensures that your wishes are known and followed by your loved ones in the event of a crisis or emergency. Consider these questions when beginning a discussion with family members:

Questions to consider in your Estate plan or conversations with family:

  1. Do you have a will? Where is it? Do family members have access?
  2. Do you have an advanced directive, such as a living will? Or health care durable power of attorney? Where is it?
  3. Who has your power of attorney? Is it the executor of your estate? How can he/she be contacted?
  4. Have you selected a funeral home? Planned or paid for a burial site?
  5. What is the location of essential personal papers?
    • Birth certificates
    • Marriage certificates
    • Dissolution of marriage
    • Social Security
    • Military service records
  6. Where do you keep life, health, property, and long-term care insurance policies?
  7. Where is your checkbook? What bank do you use?
  8. Do you have a safe deposit box? Where is it, and is the key accessible? Do you have a list of contents? And do family members have access?
  9. Have you made a list of investments (savings accounts, certificates of deposit, stocks and bonds, etc.)?
  10. Have you considered including a plan for your digital records and assets in your estate planning for example?
  11. What are the names and contact information of the financial advisers/institutions that have the investments?

Interesting Estate Planning Articles:

The Estate Planning Gift To Give Your Millennial Children In 2019

“For the Gen X and Millennial generations, estate planning might be the last thing on their mind. Overwhelmed by debt and trying to get their day to day financial lives on the right path, the nagging of their parents might make them resistant to following their advice.
There’s one thing Boomers can do to ensure their children do the right thing when it comes to estate planning: they can make a gift of estate planning to their adult child”

Link:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/megangorman/2018/12/12/estate-planning-millennials-boomers/#45bec9e6230d

by Megan Gorman Forbes Contributor Personal Finance
I write about achieving wealth and how it intersects with our lives.

Now Is The Best Time Of Year For Giving To Family Members

“When you plan to give income-producing property, giving early transfers this year’s income from your tax return to those of other family members, and they might be in lower tax brackets than you.”

Link:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/bobcarlson/2019/01/15/now-is-the-best-time-of-year-for-giving/#6f87354d76c1

Bob CarlsonContributorRetirement
I research/write about all facets of retirement/retirement planning.

Why a Trust Is a Great Estate-Planning Tool — Even if You’re Not Rich

“Although there are dozens of types of trusts, the most common trust used for these purposes is a revocable living trust. Such a trust allows you—the grantor—to specify exactly how your estate will be distributed to your beneficiaries when you die, and in the process can avoid probate and heartache.”


Link:
https://www.barrons.com/articles/trust-estate-planning-51550696439


By Sarah MaxFeb. 23, 2019 8:00 a.m. ET

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Racine, WI Elder Law Attorney – Rebecca Mason

Estate Planning for Gen X

We are all grown up now.  Many of us are married.  Many have kids graduating from high school, some are just starting our families.  Most of us have real jobs, retirement plans, life insurance, and own our home.  Yet many of us have not started estate planning?

Many of us don’t want to think about something happening, but it does. The best time to do your estate planning is now.  Before something sudden and unexpected happens.

With the proper planning, you can name someone to help you with your finances and make health care decisions for you should you become sick or injured and not able to make decisions for yourself.  In your estate plan you can also choose who becomes the guardian of your children if you die unexpectedly. 

Through beneficiary designations or a carefully crafted trust, you can avoid probate.  If you don’t make your own plan, the courts will make the decisions for you.

You have worked hard for what you have. Working with an experienced estate planning attorney, you can protect your loved ones and your assets.

Estate Planning Resources

State Bar of Wisconsin –
Wills/Estate Planning: Answering Your Legal Questions

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The team at Rebecca Mason Law is ready to help the local Racine and surrounding communities. Our expert staff can help you create a sensible estate plan no matter the size of your bank account.

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As a result, I have decided to step down from the bench. This was not an easy decision to make. My decision, in part, was to be able to focus more on my law practice and provide our clients with exceptional estate planning and probate services.

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10 Questions to Ask Your Loved Ones

We know the importance of planning for major events in our lives and sharing those plans with our family members and loved ones.

When dealing with finances, sometimes we hesitate. Discussing financial issues with family members often waits until a crisis occurs. Unfortunatley, it may be too late.

Money can be a sensitive subject with family members, it’s often at the center of many decisions in later life. Decisions such as housing, health, and long-term care. For older adults, talking with their children about future financial arrangements is critical, even if the children are reluctant to do so.

Now is the time to talk with your family members. Help them learn what information is needed. Provide information they can use to assist you through any challenging times as you age.

Here are 10 Questions to ask your loved ones or questions you can answer to help you start talking with family members:

Questions:

1. Do you have a will? Where is it? Do family members have access?

2. Do you have an advanced directive, such as a living will? Or health care durable power of attorney? Where is it?

3. Who has your power of attorney? Is it the executor of your estate? How can he/she be contacted?

4. Have you selected a funeral home? Planned or paid for a burial site?

5. What is the location of essential personal papers?

  • Birth certificates
  • Marriage certificates
  • Dissolution of marriage
  • Social Security
  • Military service records

6. Where do you keep life, health, property, and long-term care insurance policies?

7. Where is your checkbook? What bank do you use?

8. Do you have a safe deposit box? Where is it, and where is the key? Do you have a list of contents? Do family members have access?

9. Have you made a list of investments (savings accounts, certificates of deposit, stocks and bonds, etc.)?

10. What are the names and contact information of the financial advisers/institutions that have the investments?

Resources:

A Frequent Question from our Clients

A frequent question from our clients (likely because our community is located on the beautiful shores of Lake Michigan) is whether you can have your ashes scattered over the lake. The answer? You can! subject to some restrictions.

That said, there are many meaningful ways for your loved ones to honor you. And at the same time provide some closure. Even many we have never heard of. This article explores some of the more unconventional options.

23 Remarkable Things to Do With Ashes to Honor Your Loved One

Wind Chime Urn

Another idea not included in this article is a wind chime: https://www.mainelyurns.com/amazing-grace-memorial-wind-chi…

Question? What has your family done? Comment below to share your families ideas that others may benefit from!

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